I once had a friend I've known since 6th grade. Earlier this year, around April, I got fed up with how much she had changed (she was going totally in the wrong direction). She was in a terrible relationship with some guy that didn't even bother to groom himself. I can't even look at him he's just... no teeth, unkempt hair, awful smell. Apparently they never kiss, from what she has told me before. But anyways, I had learned that she had moved out of her mother's (which was a great idea, because her mother is drunk and abusive 24/7). Alas, she moved into her boyfriend's family's house. 7 people under one roof in a tiny house. They made her get a job to help pay for their bills. She's was only a Junior in high school and now she's already taking the responsibilities of an adult that's probably in or finished with college. What crossed the line for me was, I found out she had gotten pregnant, but she didn't even know it at first. She was pregnant for 4 months (she was surprised she didn't have her period for four goddamn months). Soon enough she had got an abortion. I got so upset with her terrible choices. I told her over MSN that she really needed to think about things before doing them. I understand that her mother was a piece of shit, but the best choice would have been moving to her grandmother's place near where I used to live. There, she would have gone to a much better high school, and wouldn't have to worry about working, and she'd have money to go to a culinary institute. I told her off pretty harshly, and I think she ended up crying, because her boyfriend's older brother decided to take over and try to harass me. I trolled him. A few months later I apologized for being so hard on her. I wasn't able to help her have an epiphany of what she has done. She has worried so many of her friends, and I was the only one to tell her that her bad decisions had to stop. She received my apology and decided to pin all the blame on me for being so mean to her. She didn't even apologize back for how she's not only worried me, but everyone else.
So after all of that, I just chose not to communicate with her ever again. I can't associate myself with someone like that. I guess, in a situation like this, I can only choose to throw friends away. She never really talked to me during the high school years. I usually IM'd her or called her on the phone, and she'd either answer and say she was busy and that I should call later or she wouldn't answer at all. Apparently she was too busy trying to get a boyfriend, and she had gone through about 3 - 4 bad relationships. I think her current one was the worst.
I'm not really one to criticize people's choices, but, she never gave any of her decisions any thought. She's done so many wrong things consecutively, I don't even know what good thing she has done anymore.
Yeah, I really didn't know what to do at that point. I got really boiled up and wanted to tell her off again, but then she wouldn't even listen. At least I tried I guess. Because nobody else had the balls to tell her about her actions. It upsets me how such a sweet girl has turned into this sex-driven idiot.
Oh well, I can't be mommy for everyone.
Oh and I usually cut contact with people who act really stupid. Like, the internet cool kid scheme.
Personally, I happen to be that guy that no mater what happens I still try to work something out... to a point, I try and limit myself to giving people just a few chances otherwise I know the same thing is gonna keep happening over and over again.
Example story time, asked a friend of mine if she wanted to go see Jimmy Eat World, she said she already knew about it and wanted to go. Well when I was planning on getting the tickets I asked her for the cash, she had been out of work and told me she didn't have the money, I told her it was alright I'll get the tickets if she payed me back later. I never got a reply from her so I left it at that and didn't ask cuz I knew how she was about people buying her stuff and I didn't end up going to the show either. 2 months later I had just woken up after staying over her dorm and decided to take a gander at her ticket stubs from previous concerts she'd been to, there was Rush which we had gone to see back in September and right next to that was Jimmy Eat World. Her only justification seemed to be that the tickets where sold out and a friend of hers had 2 so she bought them off of the kid. By the time I wanted to get them though there where plenty. The only thing I could think of was that she just wanted to go with a guy she liked, which would have been fine by me if she just said it instead of surrounding it in lie after lie that I corrected each time. Anyways really haven't talked to her till just a few days ago, after more than a year of trying I finally enlisted in the Air Force 2 weeks back, and it seems now she sees her wrong doing =/ oh well
I knew one girl who fucking WASTED a free trip to Paris, France.... her reason "I had a friend who was in trouble..." me"So... what'd ya do with the ticket?" her"I gave it away." me"Just.. gave it? you didn't try to sell it, or they didn't sell it?" her"no...?" me"*sigh*"
really... reallly.... REALLY stupid. She wasted what wouldve amounted to at LEAST a few hundred dollars of an airline ticket to France foooooor what? NOTHING! That's what.